2013- Setting Goals and Achieving Them

Happy 2013 everyone! As the new year sets in, many of us think about goals we’d like to make, and how to better ourselves. Most of the time these goals turn out to be way bigger than we can handle and we don’t make it through a season, let alone a year. I’m totally guilty of this.

This year, I’m getting ambitious. My goal is to follow through with my goals! This involves reading books and trying recipes to strengthen my mind and body, maximizing our family time, beautifying our home and blogging about it in the process! HOW am I going to do all of this without setting myself up for failure?

A couple years back I was going through some tough stuff and seeing a counselor. Among dealing with the issues I was initially there for, I realized that I had a lot of trouble accomplishing goals I set for myself.My primary problem was that I would take an interest in something, start a big project ( like a blog!), get overwhelmed  and move on to the Next Big Thing.

This was a vicious cycle, because I would become so invested in a project that I would feel like a total failure when I got to the point where I didn’t see it through. I realized this was spilling into my everyday tasks as well and that’s when using a day runner became so important for me to tackle the small stuff. But what about the bigger projects?

Goal Ladders are exactly what they sound like. At the top is your major goal and each rung is a smaller task that helps you accomplish that goal. I’ll use getting fit as an example, since it’s such a popular New Years Resolution.

Recently UpdatedHere, I’ve taken a relaxed approach over a regimented one. These aren’t hard and fast rules, but a visual aide for me to stay mindful of my choices of how I shop, exercise and eat. Someone who, say, wants to participate in the next Tough Mudder, would have more rules than reminders, how much they run per week, how much protein they’re taking in, etc.

I’ve also invested in an undated daily planner that has a full page devoted to each day. This makes it easier for me to remember ALL my tasks for the day, from blog posts to doctor’s appointments.

I hope that you’ll be able to take some inspiration away from this! What are your goals for 2013?



With Confession comes Resolution

Over the years, time and time again, I’ve attempted to start a blog that went nowhere.

The truth is that I would get way too caught up in the minutiae -the photos, the content, the marketability- that I would read and research and hem and haw until-poof! The inspiration was gone and I was on to the next one.

The truth is, I’m not a Stepford Mom and I never will be. We live in a glorified studio apartment, not an easy breezy suburban home. Hannah eats Gerber, not organically grown homemade baby food.  I don’t make Pinterest Perfect appetizers, I throw pre-made spring rolls in the oven before the Giants game. Sometimes I make chili. A delicious, unapologetic , spicy, not pretty at ALL chili. I’ve wanted to decorate our Dollar Tree coffee mugs with Sharpie but I just haven’t gotten around to it yet. And I’m not apologizing for any of this.

I am finally ready do what I’ve wanted to do for years and just write.

No holds barred. About our teeny tiny home and our not so teeny tiny girl. I am working on photographing more and in the process I will figure out how to get the most out of my increasingly obsolete Coolpix camera. I will learn by doing, not obsessing.

I will compile my grandma’s recipes in that book I got a year ago. I will do my best to catch up with Hannah’s baby books ( yes, books). I will focus on comfort over cuteness for our little home. And yes, I will attempt the Pinterest Perfect first birthday party for our little Bear. I have 7 months to plan, no excuses!

2009- The year of YES

2010- The year of NO

2011- The year of RISK

2012- The year of FAMILY

2013? The year of DO.


For the Love of Brocade

A couple years back, a decorating style I like to call “Girly Gothic” burst on the scene. Brocade wall clings, bedding, lamps and art were everywhere. From Target to Home Goods, Kohl’s to Christmas Tree Shops– you couldn’t escape it.  You still can’t!  But God, I loved it. Until I moved in with a BOY, that is.

The bedroom in my previous apartment was all black, white and pink brocade. But I realized I was just decorating an elevated dorm room, not a living space for a grown up. Now, with my limited skills and unlimited ability to do what I like ( S has given me carte blanche with the decor), I have to create a space that we can both live in and be proud of.

When S and I moved in together, I knew the pink had to go. Or at least be toned down.  But I still can’t resist that Victorian feel! Idid a little online window shopping and found some pieces we can incorporate into our home without sacrificing style or that masculine edge we’re aiming for.

I love the deep colors ( and memory board wall!) paired with the delicate tulle and chandelier.

A brocade magazine rack would add interest to an otherwise modern desk

This bookshelf is pricey but stunning

This silhouette mixes elements effortlessly

This jewelry holder is already sold but is AMAZING

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Pinterest is loaded with ideas and I have absolutely no self control in Home Goods.  I seriously can’t go in there until after the holidays.

 But the point of all this is brainstorming. And doing something on a Tuesday night aside from watching a Chopped marathon and eating candy corn. What? Honesty, man.